Writing your own wedding vows is a beautiful way to express your love for your partner. It’s also a great way to personalize and make the ceremony even more meaningful for the two of you. But, how do you go about writing them? Don’t worry; we’ve got you covered!
Having been a Sydney Wedding Photographer for over 9 years I have been in the fortunate to have witnessed over 300 wedding ceremonies and I love it when my couples write their own wedding vows instead of using the stock-standard responses that you can find anywhere these days.
I also get to see peoples reactions, grown men cry and everything in between and my clients often tell me those moments are the ones they cherish the most when they receive their wedding photos back from me.
It is really not that hard once you realise you do not need to complicate things, just keep it nice, simple and straight from the heart.
I know it is probably weighing on your mind in amounts the ten million other things to do before your wedding day, so here’s a step-by-step guide on how to write your own wedding vows for your wedding day.
Before you start writing, take some time to brainstorm ideas. Think about memories of the two of you together, inside jokes, and experiences that have been important in shaping the relationship between you and your partner. Jot down any words that come to mind during this process; these will be useful later when it comes time to write.
If you have a pet name for each other, feel free to share it with the world! Yes, that includes muffin, boo, sexy or whatever comes to mind!
Choose an Inspiration
Once you have some ideas jotted down, choose one or two as the basis for your vows. This could be anything from something funny the two of you did together to a shared interest or hobby like cooking or wine tasting or music-making. You can also use this inspiration as the structure for your vows by using it as an introduction before diving into more serious topics like promises between the two of you or what makes them special in your eyes.
Write Your Vows
Now it’s time to actually write out your vows! Start with an introduction and then move on to promises and commitments between the two of you such as spending time together, being honest with each other, respecting each other’s opinions, etcetera.
If there is something unique about your relationship—such as if either one of you has pets—you can include that in your vows too!
Just make sure whatever promises or commitments are made are realistic and achievable so that they still remain true after years of marriage! Finally, end with a romantic note expressing why it is that they mean so much to you and why getting married was such an easy decision for you both!
It does not have to be an essay! Short and sweet to the point is always a winner in my books.
Two to three minutes is the perfect length. Not too long, just right!
Writing wedding vows can seem like a daunting task but it doesn’t have to be! By taking some time beforehand to brainstorm ideas and plan out what kind of tone or structure your vow should take, all that’s left is simply putting pen (or pencil) to paper (or computer).
Remember not only does writing custom wedding vows show how much thought went into making this day special but it will also ensure that no matter how many years pass by, these words remain forever true between the two of you! So go ahead; get creative and write those special words that will last through eternity! Happy writing!
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